SITUATIONSHIPS : HOW TO DEAL

In a situationship? Whether it's your choice or theirs, I've got everything you need to know in order to get OUT of it or get what you WANT out of it. 

If it's your choice: whether you're in it because you're just trying to get somebody jealous, you aren't ready for something serious yet, or if you're just having fun and trying to get off, make sure you aren't hurting yourself or other people along the way. Make sure your partner is fully aware of your desire to remain casual and keep it no strings attached.  If this doesn't become clear soon you'll find yourself dealing with someone hurt, lost, and mainly confused. Also, let's face it- you won't get very good karma.  It's totally fine to keep it strictly business, and you might actually like this person but not in a boyfriend/girlfriend way.  At the end of the day, just make sure you aren't being a shitty person, you are keeping clear communication, and you are making yourself happy.  Who knows? This could turn into something more than you planned or anticipated, and that's okay too- just go with the flow.  But if you're happy with the way things are between you two and want it to stay that way, just keep it casual.  Don't go on dates, don't overthink things, don't cuddle, don't tell them your deepest secrets, and definitely don't bring them around your friends/family.  If you are doing any of these things, it turns into something toxic rather than fun- which neither of you wanted.  

If it's their choice: ouch. It happens to the best of us.  Don't panic. Take a step back and think of why this person might not be emotionally available. Did they just get out of a relationship? Did their ex cheat on them? Did they just take on a new job? Is something going on in their family or personal life? Do they have your best interests in mind? Whatever the issue is- the question should never be "am I good enough?" Take it slow, don't put pressure on your partner, and play the game right back.  If it's meant to be, it will be.  If you aren't happy, express that to your partner and if they aren't willing to change it then accept it and try to move on.  Cue Beyonce - "Single Ladies"... "if you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it."  If you want the relationship to go to the next level, put your all into it and see what you get out of it.  If your partner continues to shut you down, just know you tried your best and that maybe you two not working out is a blessing in disguise.  At the end of the day it's their loss, not yours.  Overall, take the high road.  Don't act like a crazy girlfriend that you aren't.  Actions speak a lot louder than words.  Take a hint. Put your crown on and walk away with your dignity.  

Hoping these pro-tips find you well, put them to good use! Act right or get left! 

Xx Cam